Guys are not mind readers. We are not psychics. We can’t predict the future, and we usually prefer to add another letter to ESP. So why do girls seem to see their ideal guy as someone who just knows what they want at all times? Just about every love story I’ve ever seen (or read) seems to paint this picture. But while it might seem ideal, it’s not realistic.

How many times have you had (or heard of others having) the conversation about how the guy in a relationship isn’t giving the girl what she wants or needs? How many times does that conversation end in the guy saying “he’ll try harder next time” or “he’ll try to do a better job of paying attention”? More importantly, how many times does he ever REALLY follow through with that promise? 

Often this conversation happens this way because guys don’t care as much about the “details” of a relationship as girls do, and when a girl feels like the guy isn’t giving her what she needs, she notices and tells the guy he’s doing something wrong. The guy, not realizing he wasn’t giving the girl what she needs, is usually caught off guard, accepts blame, and says he’ll do better to smooth things over. But not only does he not truly understand what he did wrong in the first place, he is essentially asked to “be a better mind reader next time.”

Good luck with that, buddy.

But what if the girl did away with her misconceptions of a clairvoyant partner, and did a better job of just spelling out exactly what she wants? Sure this would mean that she’d have to dismiss her romantic notions…  but at the end of the day girls want the guy to give her what she wants, and guys really just want to please the girl they’re with.

If the girl tells the guy exactly what she wants, he is MUCH more likely to provide it for her (and she is much more likely to have her needs met). It’s a win/win. And after being told what is needed of him for a while, I bet he even begins to anticipate those needs in the future.